I Don't Like Myself, I'm Crazy About Myself!

Mae West said this many years ago.  She was a shining example of how women should value themselves, even with the male chauvinism that was so prevalent during the early- and mid-1900s.

With Valentine's Day coming soon and with all the focus we may place on showing others how much we value them, it's time to take a look at whether we are more in love with ourselves than we are with others.  And, make no mistake, we should love ourselves more than we love others.

It's hard enough for some of us to truly like ourselves, but saying we're crazy about ourselves may not sit well with us.  After all, it sounds a little too cocky.  But, we should feel this way because we are incredible beings.  It's wired into us...we're born this way.

But what happens, as we get older and lose touch with our true spirituality, is we doubt how special we really are.  Or, we may be able to say we know we're special, yet our actions prove otherwise.

We may surround ourselves with people who deepen our self-doubts.  We may expose ourselves to things which may eat away at the strength of our character.  Or, we may participate in abusive relationships, not realizing the ultimate damage it does to our psyche.

How do we know if we've lost touch with how special we really are?  Start by asking these questions:

-    Would I rather be angry at myself than have others angry at me?

-    Do I hold my tongue so as to not hurt other people's feelings, even though they may have no regard for my feelings?

-    Do I often feel taken advantage of?

-    Do I often feel like a victim?

If you've answered yes to any of these questions, then here's a good way to begin the process of falling more in love with you:

Make a list of at least 5 things that are completely amazing about you.  They can be based on your physical attributes, your character, or the evolution of your spirit up to this point.  Elaborate about your qualities and why you think they're wonderful traits to have.  Concentrate on playing up these aspects in your daily activities and interactions.

At the same time, find one or two more things you're pretty good at and develop these traits or skills even further, before you know it, your self-confidence and esteem will take a huge leap.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience.  We are spiritual beings having a human experience."  - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Understand this--you are more than exceptional.  It's in your make-up.  Get back in touch with who you were created to be and you'll realize how crazy you are to not be crazy about yourself!